Apr 20, 2026
What if the thing keeping your clients stuck isn’t what they’re talking about… but what they’re avoiding feeling?
In this episode, I’m joined by Tanya Dantus, and we dive into a really practical way of helping clients move through what’s actually underneath the surface. Tanya shares her RIFRA Method, which stands for Root, Impact, Feel, Reflect, and Act, and how this process helps clients stop intellectualizing and start creating real change.
We talk about why so many people struggle to access their emotions, how that shows up in therapy, and what it looks like to guide someone through it in a way that feels safe and doable. There’s also a great conversation around boundaries, validation, and how early patterns continue to show up in work and relationships.
If you’ve ever felt like your clients understand their issues but still feel stuck, this one will give you a different lens and some practical tools you can start using right away.
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Meet Tanya Dantus, LMFT, SEP
Tanya Dantus is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner who specializes in working with high-functioning women navigating relationship patterns, people-pleasing, and emotional disconnection.
Her work integrates relational therapy, depth psychology, and somatic approaches to help clients move beyond insight into lasting, embodied change.
She is the creator of the RIFRA Method, a framework that helps clients understand the roots of their patterns, process emotional experience, and take aligned action. She is also the author of The Power of No, which brings this work to a wider audience of women ready to reclaim their voice, safety, and self-trust.